“When the wind blows your face will stay that way”.
“Take your coat off indoors or you won’t feel the benefit when you get outside”.
“Eat your carrots and you’ll be able to see in the dark”.
How many more lies like this were you told as a child? And let’s not forget that whole Father Christmas thing.
Of course, they are all intended to influence our behaviour in a certain way and usually to make us “be good”. There was always this doubt though, wasn’t there. After all, that boy down the street always got presents at Christmas and he was always naughty.
As we got older, we soon learnt the reality. We accepted that some things need to be done whether we like them or not.
Yet there were also a few truths that we were told and we didn’t believe those either.
And the one that could have the most life-changing impact?
“You can be anything you want to be”.
Yeah, whatever. It seems like such an off-the-cuff remark designed to make us feel better at times when we are lacking hope and faith in our abilities. And I suppose it can. Yet we need more than that. What we need is direction and we need to know the reality of that statement, too.
3 Home Truths
You can’t magically be whatever you want. You can’t polish a lamp, or throw a coin in a fountain, or blow out a candle. You can’t just wish for something and it becomes true.
Many have learnt this before us, and many will in years to come. It’s one of the reasons we don’t believe it is true because there are so many people who don’t appear to be living the life they want. They are not who they want to be. They even say “I could have been anything I wanted” as if they’ve settled for their life and not made it a choice.
There may be many things that have stood in their way and that doesn’t mean they didn’t try. But for all of us, there are three things that you need to make it a reality.
There is no doubt that you can’t just pick up a scalpel and become a surgeon. It takes years of practice to become skilled. As such, we need to understand that ability and skill is an important aspect of being able to be whatever we want to be.
The first step then is to understand what skills we need to be able to do what we want to be and be who we want to be.
As Henry Ford said, whether you can or you can’t, you are right. This is because you can choose to believe that you will get there, or you can choose to believe that you won’t. It isn’t about being optimistic, positive or filled with delusion.
Be unafraid to take that next step or start that journey. You can take control of what the future holds.
You have a choice in how you react to the things you can’t control. That is also part of being what you want to be.
When something isn’t working out then the focus is on working around it and not giving up. Change the plan, not the goal.
We won’t be able to achieve that dream unless we take action. I think this is the most important step of all. If you know you don’t have the skill, then you need to take action to find a way to gain the skills. You need to make a plan to gain those skills and work on your dream a little bit every day.
In the end, it might not work out exactly as you wanted. But you’ve got to at least try, right?
Finding The Life I Love
A few years ago, I decided I didn’t love the life I had. The hours were long and pressured and I was no longer enjoying the work as I once had. Then, of course, there was the pressure that the hours were putting on my home life and my health.
So I handed my notice in and took another job. It’s more aligned with my skills and my desire to help others eliminate the excess in their life.
It isn’t the end though. I’m hoping to develop this blog and my skills further to help more people clear the excess baggage and I’m working on that.
It doesn’t mean that I don’t have doubts.
Just this week I have been struggling to write. It would appear, as is the fashion, that November, amongst other things, is a month dedicated as National Blog Posting Month and it’s as if some kind of hoodoo spell has been cast and sent me in the reverse direction.
So, yeah, I’m right now struggling to believe that I am capable of this blogging malarkey. That I’m not “a blogger” and that the future that I am aiming for won’t materialise.
However, if I stick to the plan, developing skills, reassessing what I need to do and taking action then who knows what, and when, that future will be revealed.
What about you? Do you have a dream that you fear you won’t achieve, or are you afraid of trying?
If you still don’t know what you want to be, then join me next week when I’ll be looking more at how you find your life purpose – no matter what age you are.
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Until next time, remember, if the excess baggage is weighing you down, you can always leave it in lost luggage.
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