Now you’ve got your list of goals there’s nothing stopping you, right?
Let’s just think about that, shall we?
What Is Your Reason Why?
Before we go any further, we need to make sure these goals are yours.
Ask yourself a series of why questions to get to the bottom of why this goal is one for you.
Let’s say, for example, you had a goal to lose weight. Fair enough. Lots of people have that goal.
Why are you doing it?
- Because a friend and I agreed this would be our New Year’s Resolution
Why did you agree?
- Because my clothes don’t fit
Why don’t you buy clothes that fit?
- Because if I get any bigger then my back pain will return
BINGO! There’s the reason – you then decide which struggle you wan to live with – the hard work of losing weight or the physical pain.
This can apply across the board. Your goals might be general – such as to “Get Healthy” – or specific – such as to “Run a Marathon”. They could be big career changes, such as launching your own business, or small work improvements such as presenting to an audience. They may also be based on daily habits, such as going for a walk or taking a picture. You’ve just got make sure that firstly, you are doing it for you.
(Psst! Note that your goals don’t have to contribute to a mega overhaul of your life. They can be tiny steps that simply contribute to your happiness and make you feel like you are living your life on your terms.)
Why Do This Exercise?
Knowing your “Why” will push you through the hard times, when you are getting up on a dark, cold, rainy day to train for your marathon, when you have had a long tiring day and going to the gym is the last thing you want to do, or when you’ve made 200 sales calls to promote your new business and no one seems interested.
You need to be able to picture that future you, the happy you and know what the benefits are of achieving this goal. Look at what the outcomes of pursuing that goal would mean for you. And don’t forget your priorities. You may love your friend very much, but if joining the gym with them means losing time on what you say are your priorities then perhaps you need to reassess those priorities or find another way to help your friend.
And after all, if your friend has a good enough “Why” then they’ll do that thing whether you come along for the ride or not, won’t they?
Grab your list of goals and ask yourself why you want to do that until you can get to something that will make you understand your reason.
If you get to a point that makes you think that the goal might need to change – then change it!
If it seems like you are doing it because you think you should (I see you Dry January) – then decide whether you want to do it. What will you learn from doing it? How will it contribute to the future you?
COME BACK TOMORROW FOR:
A cup of tea and some weekend reading – no homework tomorrow!
Are you able to pinpoint your real reason for your goals? What did this exercise reveal for you? Share in the comments below
Until next time, remember, if the excess baggage is weighing you down, you can always leave it in lost luggage.