When we set a goal or make a resolution, it’s important to hold ourselves accountable for making progress.
We’ve already discussed some of the ways that we can do this, such as having a simple tracking method and weekly review sessions. We’ve also made it easier to know what we need to do to make progress by looking at our skills and obstacles, and setting a plan.
However, sometimes, we find it hard to meet these expectations.
Accountability and Meeting Expectations
In her book, the Four Tendencies, Gretchin Rubin discusses how people respond to both inner and outer expectations depending on their personality type.
Upholders will readily respond to both outer and inner expectations. If they say they are going to do something then they will even if they only tell themselves.
Obligers respond readily to outer expectations, but struggle to meet inner expectations. If they believe that someone is depending on them to do something, then they are more likely to do that thing, even if it conflicts with their own plans.
Questioners will question every expectation and will usually only meet it if they feel it is justified. As a result, they are mostly responding to inner expectations.
Rebels resist all expectations, both inner and outer.
It would be fair to say, then, that accountability will be different for everyone.
Finding the Right Method of Accountability
Personally, I hate being told to do something, even if I was going to do it without being prompted so my accountability will always be to myself. Yes, I am a questioner. You can find out your tendency by taking the quiz.
However, that doesn’t mean that sometimes I need to find ways to make myself do the work when it’s something I’ve decided to do. For example, I told you that all Blogmas posts would be available at 6am everyday so that it would make me do the work. I didn’t have to let you know what I was going to do before I did it.
On the other hand, I made that (horrendous) video without telling anybody – not even my husband. One day I said “hey, look what I did”, to his surprise since he couldn’t figure out when I even had the opportunity.
This is all to say, you need to find what’s right for you. If you know that you depend on other people depending on you then use that. Here are some other things you could do:
- Pin your goals in an often seen place
- Write your goals down everyday
- Stick your habit tracker on the fridge
- Find an accountability partner who will ask what you have done each week. Not to judge – just the thought of saying you’ve done nothing may spur you on.
- Find a coach – at the gym, at work, at school
Over to you.
Determine what method you are going to use to stay accountable.
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If you’re staying accountable, you deserve recognition for that don’t you? Let’s talk about rewards then.
How does your ‘tendency’ impact your accountability? Get accountable now and tell us your goals in the comments below.
Until next time, remember, if the excess baggage is weighing you down, you can always leave it in lost luggage.